Posts Tagged ‘Andy’
Thoughts on singleness revisited
Posted on: February 1, 2011
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“want to find romance? commit to asking a girl out once a week (talk to henry cloud if you think that’s too much) or, if you’re a girl, put yourself on a dating site on the internet and say yes when you get asked out” – don miller
i read that and thought “don, are you out of your mind?”.
i then posted it as my facebook status and got the following comment from val (of tbv fame): “a couple of months before starting to go out with brett i decided that i was actually going to start saying ‘yes’ to dates – even if i thought it really wouldn’t work or i wouldn’t enjoy it…it was good for me to a. start giving guys chances, b. get over the fear of awkwardness on a date, c. realise that a date was not saying i wanted to marry the guy (i.e. i kissed dating hello!) i did go on some very awkward dates and had some times of literally having nothing to say to each other, and said yes to what i thought were dates but later turned out not to be and that was hard and dissapointing and i got hurt…BUT, when brett asked me out, i said yes even though a couple months before i would have said no because 1. he was way older and 2. i was nervous. and that didn’t turn out too badly”
and for those who don’t know them, when she says “didn’t turn out too badly” she means “we ended up getting married and being all happy and couply and making T think ‘aw, i want that’”… 
my friend Andy then commented “I definitely agree with Don Miller! It makes sense. To find ‘romance’ one needs to be in contact with members of the other sex, and that’s not going to happen if you shut yourself off from meeting those members.” and seeing that Andy has been in a relationship for like, i don’t know, 10 years with her boyfriend – including a year of long distance – i think she probably knows what she’s talking about when it comes to relationships.
3 short months ago, i wrote this post. and i meant every word of what i said. even that part with all the senarios which lead me to hate being single. what i failed to mention was that i was totally thinking of a specific person when i wrote those. so yea, i was, and am still, in this weird “i love being single but…” mode because of him.
anyway, in blue like jazz – which i absolutely loved! – don miller says something like (i’m too lazy to get the book so i’ll just paraphrase) “if you like a girl you should let her know. even if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll never regret stepping up. i’ve also learned that if the girl says she doesn’t like you back you should stop riding your bike past her house”. lol. anyway, does that apply to girls as well? if you like a boy, should you let him know? i’m not saying ask the guy out, just, you know, let him know that you are interested, and if he’s also interested then his interest would be welcome…or something…
so, should i tell the guy? or should i just sign up for an internet dating site?
Give Me The Change
Posted on: August 19, 2008
We went out to steers (one of my two favorite restaurants) the other day. For some reason the cashier-lady-person was not in the mood to deal with people…or maybe it was just us. Anyway, one of the chicks I was with, Andy, got the wrong change back and after checking it she goes back to the lady to get it rechecked. (side note: I wanna be one of those people who check their change…I never check. My mom checks all the time and there’s been times when she realises that she’s been cheated out of R20 and then goes back for it. Well she also goes back if she’s been cheated out of R2 so there’s something to be said for not checking) Anyway, the cashier-lady-person checks it, realises that it is infact the wrong amount and tells Andy that it’s all her (Andy’s) fault. So basically cashier-lady-person messed up and it was Andy’s fault…there’s a lesson to be learned here folks: when all else fails blame someone else. Anyway, after she realises the mistake she goes “GIVE ME THE CHANGE!” like all sternly and stuff, and I was thinking “wow, glad i’m not in Andy’s place”. 2nd lesson: when blaming doesn’t work, scare everyone away.
stupid? yes! but I’m bored so there.
Anyway, Brett suggested that “give me the change” would be a good title for a blog (he might have meant his blog – oh well I’m stealing it) so here goes…
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Change is something that presses us out of our comfort zone. It is destiny-filtered, heart grown, faith built…It is uncomfortable, for changing from one state to the next upsets our control over outcomes…We don’t grow in retreat, but through endurance. Change isn’t fixed by crying, worrying, or mental treadmilling. Change is won by victors not victims; and that choice is ours.
Change is awkward — at first…Change is more fun to do than to be done to. Change seeks a better place at the end and is complete when you realize you are different.
…Change is charged when you are dissatisfied with where you are. Change doesn’t look for a resting-place; just the next launching point. Change is only a waste to those who don’t learn from it. Change happens in the heart before it is proclaimed by our works…Change uses the power invested in the unseen to reinvent what is seen. Change is like driving in a fog – you can’t see very far, but you can make the whole trip that way.
Change is here to stay.
Copyright 2008 Institute of Industrial Engineers; http://www.iienet2.org/Details.aspx?id=3290
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I want change; I need change…I want my life and mind and soul to be totally transformed…to be totally God-filled, God-focused, God-ly. I hate stagnation. I hate feeling like my life is not moving…like I’m not growing. It’s kinda like someone said (I really can’t remember who right now), life is like a river, if you are not swimming upstream you are just going with the flow. The salmon(?) swims upstream every year in order to reproduce…it beats itself bloody in the fight to swim against the current, but at the end there is life. If you’re not growing, you’re already dead – and growing requires change. Change can be fun sometimes, but then again sometimes change can be a…witch with a capital B.
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My song of the moment: Surely we can change by David Crowder Band
And I don’t know
What to do with a love like that
And I don’t know
How to be a love like that
…
Where there is pain
Let there be grace
Where there is suffering
Bring serenity
For those afraid
Help them be brave
Where there is misery
Bring expectancy
And surely we can change
Surely we can change
Something
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So yea, bring it on – Give me the change!
