Posts Tagged ‘blue like jazz’
I love reading. I don’t do it as often as I should, but I love getting lost in a story, fiction or non-fiction…I love reading people’s stories. I prefer story books, whether you are telling me someone else’s story or your own. I don’t so much like self-help books or teaching books.
Anyway, my top 3 books: (click on pic to find out more about the book)
(first 44 pages of blue like jazz available to read online)
Some authors I really dig:
“want to find romance? commit to asking a girl out once a week (talk to henry cloud if you think that’s too much) or, if you’re a girl, put yourself on a dating site on the internet and say yes when you get asked out” – don miller
i read that and thought “don, are you out of your mind?”.
i then posted it as my facebook status and got the following comment from val (of tbv fame): “a couple of months before starting to go out with brett i decided that i was actually going to start saying ‘yes’ to dates – even if i thought it really wouldn’t work or i wouldn’t enjoy it…it was good for me to a. start giving guys chances, b. get over the fear of awkwardness on a date, c. realise that a date was not saying i wanted to marry the guy (i.e. i kissed dating hello!) i did go on some very awkward dates and had some times of literally having nothing to say to each other, and said yes to what i thought were dates but later turned out not to be and that was hard and dissapointing and i got hurt…BUT, when brett asked me out, i said yes even though a couple months before i would have said no because 1. he was way older and 2. i was nervous. and that didn’t turn out too badly”
and for those who don’t know them, when she says “didn’t turn out too badly” she means “we ended up getting married and being all happy and couply and making T think ‘aw, i want that’”…
my friend Andy then commented “I definitely agree with Don Miller! It makes sense. To find ‘romance’ one needs to be in contact with members of the other sex, and that’s not going to happen if you shut yourself off from meeting those members.” and seeing that Andy has been in a relationship for like, i don’t know, 10 years with her boyfriend – including a year of long distance – i think she probably knows what she’s talking about when it comes to relationships.
3 short months ago, i wrote this post. and i meant every word of what i said. even that part with all the senarios which lead me to hate being single. what i failed to mention was that i was totally thinking of a specific person when i wrote those. so yea, i was, and am still, in this weird “i love being single but…” mode because of him.
anyway, in blue like jazz – which i absolutely loved! – don miller says something like (i’m too lazy to get the book so i’ll just paraphrase) “if you like a girl you should let her know. even if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll never regret stepping up. i’ve also learned that if the girl says she doesn’t like you back you should stop riding your bike past her house”. lol. anyway, does that apply to girls as well? if you like a boy, should you let him know? i’m not saying ask the guy out, just, you know, let him know that you are interested, and if he’s also interested then his interest would be welcome…or something…
so, should i tell the guy? or should i just sign up for an internet dating site?
they say to watch the company you keep because you tend to become them or something. i always try to surround myself with good people, and i think i’ve done very well so far. god has brought some super awesome people into my life.
sometime this year i was going through some hectic spiritual stuff – lots of doubt, which i’d never really experienced before – so it was really scary, but the people from church helped me through it.
a few years ago i read donald miller’s blue like jazz and shane claiborne’s irresistible revolution and fell in love with the idea of living in community. i decided then that i didn’t want to live alone anymore – at that point i was living in a batchelor flat all by my lonesome. anyway, the following year i moved in with my friend lindri and that was really good. i think i needed that transition of moving in with just one person first to get me out of my “bubble” space mentality…and it was a really huge bubble. anyway, by the end of the year i was so used to lindri coming to my door all the time to talk that i’d so miss it when she wasn’t around. i got to a point where i didn’t just put up with being around people but i actually wanted and craved to be around other people.
the next year i moved in with 2 strangers. even more growth. atleast with lindri we’d been friends before we moved in together so i kinda knew what to expect but with these new flatmates i knew nothing. i only met them once i’d already moved in. and although there were some disagreements here and there – mostly about housekeeping: washing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, etc etc – it was a really cool group of people so it all worked out in the end.
i just moved into a new house last week that i will be sharing with 4 other people – eek. 4 stragers. i lucked out though because they all seem like genuinely great people and we get along quite well. i actually went away with one of them this past weekend – after only knowing her for a week – to a music festival…she’s also a fan of music and dancing – yayness!
i think my biggest problem this year is going to be being farther away from my church people, especially since my flatmates aren’t Christians. i think i took that for granted while i had it. lind would always come to my room when she got something new from the bible and share it with me and we’d have hectic chats on the Bible and God and pray for each other and stuff. and last year, while that didn’t happen, knowing that my flatmates where Christians and being close to my friends whom i could always call on for coffee and a chat when i was feeling down or whatever was really encouraging.
i think church attendance and cell group are going to play an even bigger role in my life next year. i’m gonna be more dependent on that christian fellowship. and i’m gonna try to remember not to take it for granted but to really appreciiate it.
this post was written for the one word at a time blog carnival. this week’s theme is “fellowship”. Click here to read other posts from some awesome bloggers.
All this is flashy rhetoric about loving you.
I never had a selfless thought since I was born.
I am mercenary and self-seeking through and through;
I want God, you, all friends, merely to serve my turn.
Peace, reassurance, pleasure, are the goals I seek,
I cannot crawl one inch outside my proper skin;
I talk of love – a scholar’s parrot may talk Greek -
But, self-imprisoned, always end where I begin.
This is a poem by C. S. Lewis…don’t know the name. Came across it in Donald Miller’s Blue Like Jazz. I love it…and hate it…cos it rings too true. Do I really believe the things I say? Or like a parrot, do I simply just regurgitate the things I’ve heard?
that’s the vibe going around. and i tend to agree. there’s only so many times i can watch kirk cameron types in the same story line with just a little twist (lost his job, wife is leaving him, etc then meets with Jesus at the last minute and everything is honkey dorey after that) because frankly, that’s not my story. i mean there’s a few movies that i feel tried a different route but not enough. how to save a life for instance – i thought that was really good. and it didn’t leave me with a whole lot of “yea, but in real life…” – especially the side story with the pastor’s kid…made it more real to me.
anyway, what i wanted to say is: i wasn’t one of those troubled teen into drugs and drinking and teenage pregnancy and then someone at youth reached out to me and i met jesus and turned my life around. i was more one of those went to church my whole life, met christ at camp, and life keeps getting in the way, and now i’m on this search for christ, searching for his footsteps, trying to walk in them…and it’s hard. the moment i chose to really follow christ was the moment my life stopped being honkey dorey (or maybe i only realised then how much it wasn’t honkey dorey…and why do i keep saying honkey dorey…is that even how you spell it…wait, where was i…oh yes).
i used to not read christian books cos they all felt a little over my head. some huge christian dude was telling me how i should be living even though he knew absolutely nothing about me. he had the answers, he knew better. just do what he tells you and all will work out. and i got over christian books – until my friend told (forced) me to read blue like jazz. and i loved it.
it didn’t come across as a “here’s the way follow it cos i’m always right” but rather as “i’m struggling on this walk but this is what i’ve learned so far…maybe it could help you too”. like, don miller didn’t come across as some wise, old, “i’ve already made it” type, he felt like someone i could relate to. and the book spoke to me so many different times…he would tell a story of something that happened to me and i’ll be like “whoa, yea, me too” so i really dug it. and it totally changed my walk with christ…in the sense that, i felt like maybe christ does know what i’m feeling in this moment in this time and he cares…he cares enough to make me realise that i’m not some weirdo out there who’s struggling by herself when everyone else has got it down pact. and for the first time i felt like, even if he wasn’t God and he wasn’t obligated to love me, maybe just maybe he’d still love me and like me and wanna hang out with me and have cupcake/coffee hangout sessions with me.
which is when i started my random cupcake/coffee hangout sessions with God…which now also include a guitar…fun times!
and that book led me to reading other books since which have helped along on this walk and have encouraged me and challenged me and just strengthened my walk (ie irresistible revolution).
anyway, so the book is now being turned into a movie. problem is, it’s not a typical christian plot, so some people are having a hard time getting behind it. they feel like there might not be a market for it, so they are not willing to put their money into it. when don miller and the director and everyone decided to maybe put the script back on the shelf, a couple of fans decided to start a fund-raising campaign for the movie – the save the blue like jazz movie campaign…and what do you know, there was a market for it after all because people are donating money and wanting to be a part of telling this story. i guess that book talked to more people than just me.
the movie is being shot on a fund-raising-budget. there are no huge names behind it. this is maybe why christian movies suck. hollywood holds the money. christians have stories, but not the means to tell them.