Posts Tagged ‘Brett’
Oh look, it’s that time of the year again when we make resolutions and vow to be better people than we’ve been in the past. Well, here are mine:
first a look at last year’s:
1. See more live music –> DONE!
2. Try new things –> DONE!
3. Don’t take ur friends for granted – don’t always wait for them to make plans, initiate them sometimes, call/send an sms just to say hi, visit cape town more often –> DONE! (could have done it more, but i think i did quite a bit of this – I did spend more weekends in Cape Town than in Stellies though)
4. Stop being judgemental -> still working on this one…really, i’m trying
5. Sort out ur finances –> so bad…so so bad. i upgraded a phone contract that had ended and an ipad on contract. i suck at money issues. i moved to a cheaper flat though…and cancelled another phone contract that had expired.
this year’s resolutions:
1. No new phone/cool gadgets contract no matter how cool or tempting that new toy might be (still working on them finances)
2. Hit the gym at least 3 times a week (more fitness than weight loss, but that would be nice too, but not so much i need to buy a new wardrobe)
3. Play guitar at least 3 times a week (i’m thinking i wanna start playing in front of people…might help me improve)
4. Finish that bible reading plan I started last year (i’m a month behind…was supposed to finish on Jan 3rd, then i’ll start a new more study-oriented one)
5. Find something in CT to replace VisionK (i live in a high school…a girl’s high school…a girl’s high school hostel…maybe…)
6. Read more (not just blogs, like books). Write more (not just blogging, but other things)
7. Dream big. Plan those dreams out. Live them.
I was gonna write about my new year’s eve celebrations in this post, but it’s already a little long so I think I’ll save it for later…
anyway, if you’re looking for ideas or prompts for your own resolutions, b-fish is writing a series over at his blog on just that…take a look!
I’m back…sort of. I’m still not fully in writing mode, but thought I should put something on here just to get back into it.
So I heard the song “I was here” by Beyonce written by Diane Warren and I’ve had it on repeat since I bought it. It’s a powerful track – even Ms Warren said she thought it was her best track to date…and that’s no small feat…google her, she has written amazing songs, which you know, even though you don’t know that you know them.
Anyway, this song is kinda my life anthem right now…it was my life anthem before i’d even heard it. it’s kinda my heart-cry right now. live to the max, live with no regrets, leave an imprint on people hearts, let the light you shine into others lives be the legacy you leave behind, leave the world a better place just by being yourself.
ok, here are the lyrics
I wanna leave my footprints on the sands of time
Know there was something that, yea something that I left behind
When I leave this world I’ll leave no regrets
Leave something to remember so they won’t forget
I was here…
I lived, I loved
I was here…
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here…
I want to say I lived each day until I died
To know that I meant something in somebody’s life
The hearts I have touched will be the proof that I leave
That I made a difference and this world will see
I was here…
I lived, I loved
I was here…
I did, I’ve done, everything that I wanted
And it was more than I thought it would be
I will leave my mark so everyone will know
I was here…
I just want them to know
That I gave my all, did my best
Brought someone some hapiness
Left this world a little better just because…
I was here…
just read this post by b-fish this morning and this portion stood out for me
“i believe that everyone has to be doing something for the poor. not that everyone has to be doing everything for the poor or that everyone has to be doing something for all of the poor. but that every individual needs to be investing and engaging and reaching out to someone or ones who do not have as much as them…”
i try to do stuff…but is it enough? am i giving my all? am i doing my best? hopefully the little i do for sharon will be part of the legacy i leave behind.
“want to find romance? commit to asking a girl out once a week (talk to henry cloud if you think that’s too much) or, if you’re a girl, put yourself on a dating site on the internet and say yes when you get asked out” – don miller
i read that and thought “don, are you out of your mind?”.
i then posted it as my facebook status and got the following comment from val (of tbv fame): “a couple of months before starting to go out with brett i decided that i was actually going to start saying ‘yes’ to dates – even if i thought it really wouldn’t work or i wouldn’t enjoy it…it was good for me to a. start giving guys chances, b. get over the fear of awkwardness on a date, c. realise that a date was not saying i wanted to marry the guy (i.e. i kissed dating hello!) i did go on some very awkward dates and had some times of literally having nothing to say to each other, and said yes to what i thought were dates but later turned out not to be and that was hard and dissapointing and i got hurt…BUT, when brett asked me out, i said yes even though a couple months before i would have said no because 1. he was way older and 2. i was nervous. and that didn’t turn out too badly”
and for those who don’t know them, when she says “didn’t turn out too badly” she means “we ended up getting married and being all happy and couply and making T think ‘aw, i want that’”…
my friend Andy then commented “I definitely agree with Don Miller! It makes sense. To find ‘romance’ one needs to be in contact with members of the other sex, and that’s not going to happen if you shut yourself off from meeting those members.” and seeing that Andy has been in a relationship for like, i don’t know, 10 years with her boyfriend – including a year of long distance – i think she probably knows what she’s talking about when it comes to relationships.
3 short months ago, i wrote this post. and i meant every word of what i said. even that part with all the senarios which lead me to hate being single. what i failed to mention was that i was totally thinking of a specific person when i wrote those. so yea, i was, and am still, in this weird “i love being single but…” mode because of him.
anyway, in blue like jazz – which i absolutely loved! – don miller says something like (i’m too lazy to get the book so i’ll just paraphrase) “if you like a girl you should let her know. even if she doesn’t feel the same way, you’ll never regret stepping up. i’ve also learned that if the girl says she doesn’t like you back you should stop riding your bike past her house”. lol. anyway, does that apply to girls as well? if you like a boy, should you let him know? i’m not saying ask the guy out, just, you know, let him know that you are interested, and if he’s also interested then his interest would be welcome…or something…
so, should i tell the guy? or should i just sign up for an internet dating site?
…or thoughts inspired by arisefest…
i had a brilliant time at arisefest…seriously, too awesome. brett wrote a reflection piece on it here…which reminded me of a tweet i had seen a couple days after the fest.
the artist brett was talking about on his blog said something to the effect of “last year i got kicked off the stage, and this year the same thing happened again” when he was told that he was going over his time. someone in the audience then tweeted something like “i can’t believe their kicking [artist] off but they didn’t kick anyone else off” – like they were specifically targetting this artist…which was not true, cos i saw A LOT of bands being given the “5 minutes left, one last song” signal.
also, from the perspective of the organisers, it must be very frustrating to have someone go over their time allotment…and i’m sure it doesn’t feel good to have to be the one to tell someone to leave the stage. but you have other bands that are there to play, and you want to be fair to everyone – give everyone their space to play, cos i mean there’s a reason you asked them to play in the first place right…
but from the perspective of the audience, you always want your favorite artist to play longer, to play all your favorite songs. you don’t think about all the other people who are there to listen to their favorite artists who have yet to come on stage.
i guess it all comes down to selfishness in a way. and i know music festivals are about having fun and enjoying yourself, but it is a Christian music festival, and if you call yourself a christian, at all times you should be dying to yourself and thinking of others more highly than yourself, right?
in conclusion, i know i’ve been the screaming fan in the audience yelling for one more song, so i have to apologise. and at the next arise i promise to try and see things from other people’s [especially the a-team's, who did a fantastically amazingly brilliant job btw] perspective.
…but only at arisefest.
me: “hi, i’m tsholo”
other: “oh, tsholo from twitter?”
other: “hi tsholo”
me: “hiiiii, have we met?”
other: “no, but i heard your name over and over this weekend”
me: “hi, i’m tsholo”
other: “tsholo underscore m”
other: “ha ha…my friend was telling me about you last night”
just some of the wonderful introductions from arisefest. ha ha…
so, i twitter a lot. and i “meet” people thru twitter. and this past week i finally got to meet some of them in real life. it was kinda surreal having people go “hey, i follow you on twitter”. i’ve done that to people before but i’ve never had it done to me. some people started following me last year during arisefest cos they couldn’t be there and so they followed my stream to check out what’s happening at the fest, so they came and introduced themselves this year. so weird.
then there were some who would come up to me in the merch tent and ask me stuff about versus the wolf because Brett (who was mc’ing) told everyone i was a fan; or asking me the most random things about bands just cos i worked in the merch tent and they assumed i knew everything there was to know about said bands.
i especially liked the ones who came up to me and started talking to me like we were friends just because they’ve been hearing my name from everyone else. or when we were playing cards with some dudes we had just met and he said he wasn’t in the tent when Brett gave out my twitter handle but his friend told him about it later. weird. anyway, got some new followers on twitter after Brett gave out my handle, and hopefully i’ll get to meet them at the next arisefest
so thoughts on being famous: it’s great for 3 days – it was fun and got to meet lots of people thru it, but i really don’t get how real famous people do it. i would freak out if i constantly ran into random people who knew way too much stuff about me and i didn’t know them at all.
my absoulute favorite though has to be getting a shout out from Rash Ferguson and Nic Small of Versus The Wolf while Brett was interviewing them. and then Rash singing “i’m riding tsholo”…lolness! after that i had random people came and sat with me on the grass while listening to the acoustic stuff.
yay for being arisefest famous!
so i left stellenbosch on December 24th at 1am. my sister and i got into a car with a perfect stranger supposedly going to PE and headed west. “what? but PE is east…” you say, and you are right. we later found out we were first going to cape town to fetch his friend, but there was a moment there where i was like silently freaking out on the inside. anyway, stranger’s name was Giovanni, and his friends name was Sizwe. so yea, my sister and i were getting a lift to Port Elizabeth with two random guys we didn’t know. i call it adventurous, my parents call it naive. either way, the roadtrip turned out to be awesome! the guys were super funny, mostly gentlemanly with a not so gentlemanly conversations (about girls) thrown in here and there. we left CT at around 2 am and at around 5 or 6 as the sun was rising we stopped at a very deserted beach and got in the freezing water for a minute and then played catch (or hit tsholo with the ball as it is sometimes known). got to PE at around 8 am i think, and said goodbye to the guys.
the rest of the day was filled with visiting relatives and doing last minute christmas lunch food shopping and cooking up a storm. we didn’t do christmas presents this year, so no mad rush for last minute presents. i just got something for my sister and my brother.
woke up early morning on the 25th and went to church. really enjoyed that. then came home and had a fabulous lunch. then i went out for a walk. i think i was gone for about 2 hours, and everyone except my brother only realised i was gone when i walked back into the house. my sister thought i had been sleeping and my mom and dad thought i’d been watching tv in the next room. how sad is that. at least my brother realised i wasn’t around and that was my christmas.
on the 26th, the siblings and i decided to go to the fair. but then when i got there i realised that i didn’t really feel like being there so i started walking back home while they faired it up. then i realised that just near the fair there was a street market vibe thing happening and so i went there and found a used book vendor. i snagged me two “new” books and headed home to read. it was quite a long walk, but it was along the beach so that was cool, though by the time i got home i was too tired to read, so i just vegged in front of the tv and watched mk.
on the 27th, my sis and i woke up, cleaned the whole house, then went on a mission to find sushi. i had been seriously craving it and my sister had never tried it but i’d been talking about it so much that she decided she had to try it. according to my twitter peeps the best sushi in PE is at Fushin (central) but since my parents are anti-sushi, they weren’t willing to give us a lift into town so we decided to find something walking distance. first we went to john dory’s but i didn’t like the place…seemed too…chain restauranty for my liking…didn’t feel sushified. so then we went to the boardwalk and ended up at 34 deg South. they have a cool sign at the entrance that says “warm beer, cold food, terrible service, welcome” or something like that, and i thought that was funny so we went in. our waiter was sooo cute…his name was josh…and he was super sweet. the wine was great, the service was not so great (we had to wait forever to get seated, eventually seating ourselves and then wait forever to get a waiter to come to our table but once he did come he was awesome and kept coming over every 10 minutes to check if we were still ok), and the food took like at least an hour to make (really? did you go catch the fish yourselves?) and josh kept coming over to apologise…so cute! anyway, the food wasn’t amazing. i would go back there though just to chill and have a glass of wine, but not for the sushi. so basically we went sat at a restaurant for 2 hours for ok food. lol. afterwards my brother joined us and we went 10 pin bowling – which was so much fun. seriously enjoyed hanging with my siblings…they are a very funny pair.
on the 28th, i woke up early and headed to the beach. spend around 3 hours there just sitting and watching the waves, the other beach visitors, the surfers, and a pod/school/group of whales/dolphins/something that swam by…was super cool, but not close enough to see them too clearly…also, i don’t know how to differentiate between the fins so don’t know what it was that swam by…assuming it wasn’t sharks though cos the surfers stayed in the water. i got back home, cooked, showered, repacked and headed for the bus station.
that was followed by a 12 hour bus ride to Durban – arrived at 9am on the morning of the 29th. got to Durbs and got a lift from my friend Rasta-Kev (who does not live in Durban as i found out) to Howick. got to midmar dam and set up my tent, found out that i really didn’t need to be there that early because the volunteer tasks had already been mostly taken and so hung out for a little bit with one of the security guard ladies then went into my tent and slept. woke up just in time for a volunteer braai, which was cool…met people, ate food, then went back to sleep.
the 30th started with a 7:30 am volunteer meeting. i should explain the volunteer thing. i went to midmar dam for arisefest – a christian music festival from dec 30th – jan 1st – and i volunteered to help out with…whatever they needed helping out with. ok. so the meeting was basically to remind everyone of the duties they had signed up for. i was signed up for the merchandise tent, but it wasn’t going to be open for a while so went back to sleep some more. eventually i woke up again and went to help out with the setting up of the food tent. then afterwards i went to help out with merch tent but there were too many people in there so i was told to take a break, which left me with nothing to do, so i roamed about the dam then hung out with another of the security ladies (they were super friendly…i think they felt bad for me cos i was always walking alone) then went back to my tent until the acoustic stage started. oh yea, i also ran into Brett and Val in the food tent and then they left to go find their sleeping place or something. anyway, the acoustic stuff was pretty cool…enjoyed sitting in the sun listening to live acoustic music…and getting a shout out from versus the wolf .
after the acoustic set chilled out until the main tent stuff happened, which is when my friends (Madeleine, Louise, Ashanti, and Drew) arrived so i chilled out with them for a bit as well, then helped out in the merch tent. after my slot i went and listened to some music and then headed to bed.
31st started with a 7:30 meeting again, followed by more sleep. woke up again and headed to food tent and met new people and played cards. then headed to acoustics and listened while running around helping out where i can. went to go get lunch and ran into my friend katie and her friend roxy then hung out with them and the other peeps until the main tent stuff started. later i worked in the merch tent and got to hang out there with the VTW guys… after that, went back to more music and brought in the new year with worship – awesomeness! lots of dancing vibes after that, then went to sleep.
woke up the next morning (2011 woo hoo) and all my friends deserted me. so hung out with roxy and her friends and played 30 seconds (so much funny) then got a lift with roxy to katie’s house in PMB where i took a looooong bath and a nap, had lunch, then they gave me a lift back to Durbs to catch my bus. a 26 hour bus ride later i was back in Stellenbosch…so very tired. took another loooong bath, ate dinner, and slept.
and that was the end of my holidays. 10 days. short, but packed. fun was had. music was had. loved it.
Worship session 1
How great is our God – Brad Klynsmith
It is you – Newsboys
Better is one day – Matt Redman
No preach today. What we did instead was get into groups of 5 and did a pray/listening to God for each other thing. So basically you go one at a time. 4 people take like 2 minutes or whatever to listen to God for someone then you say if you felt God was saying anything – pictures, words, feelings, etc. And sometimes you get the most wacked out stuff and you don’t want to share it cos what the heck, but then they speak volumes to someone else because that’s what they needed to hear from God. And sometimes it’s something that seems like it would make sense but it doesn’t really speak to that person or to their situation so then you aren’t really sure if it was God or if it was really just a picture in your mind. and sometimes 3 months later someone comes back to you and goes “hey, remember that one time you prayed for me 3 months ago…well…” and it’s kinda awesome. and sometimes it really is just a picture or just something you happened to think of. Bit tricky to work it all out.
I got prayed for and got a whole bunch of words and pictures and a lot of it was “maybe it’s speaking into that situation or maybe…” but nothing concrete…nothing to do with the major stressor in my life right now so…but i’ll pray some more on it and see if God wants to reveal anything else.
Worship session 2
How great is your faithfulness – Jonas Myrin/Matt Redman
Wholly yours – David Crowder Band
Ready now – Desperation Band
Empty me – John Comer and Gene Way
O come let us adore Him – John Wade,John Reading
All who are thirsty – Brenton Brown, Glenn Robertson
We fall down – Chris Tomlin
Usually if Kev is leading we do about 5 or 6 songs. This week he’s all “I picked 10 songs” and i’m all “that’s a lot” and he’s all “we don’t have to do all of them, we’ll see how the service goes” then when Brett pitches up he’s all “i hope you have like 12 songs today” which was really cool cos we ended up doing all 10 that we’d practiced…but because we aren’t used to it, i guess, it was quite tiring. and the sound wasn’t that great last night – don’t know how it sounded from the congregation, but from where we were (it was just kev and i) i was struggling to hear kev or the guitar, all i could hear was myself – and i hate how i sound through the mic! anyway…all in all was a very awesome service…and i really felt like God really pitched up!
Firstly, happy mother’s day to all the mother’s around the world. Hope you have all had/are having a blessed one.
Secondly, this post is part of a weekly worship blog carnival, so do stop by the worship community for more setlists and sermon recaps from around the world…
Blessed be the name of the Lord (Matt and Beth Redman)
The stand (Joel Houston)
How great is our God (Chris Tomlin)
I can only imagine (MercyMe)
Was visiting my mom this weekend and so went to her church. Was really cool. Enjoyed it. The preach was on spiritual warfare and the need to be ready for battle at every moment.
Trading my sorrows (Darrel Evans)
Endlessly (John Egan)
Glory (Reuben Morgan)
Wholly yours (David Crowder*Band)
Today (Brian Doerksen)
Nothing but the blood (Matt Redman)
Kev led tonight. Really digging the whole accoustic vibes…2 accoustic guitars, 1 djembe, 2 vocalists.
Before the service started Brett had us fill out a questionnaire which included stuff from “is eating McDonald’s a sin”, “is eating only junk food a sin”, “is listening to bootleg music a sin” to heavy stuff like “is abortion a sin”, “what if it was a choice between the mother with 60% chance of survival and a baby with 10% chance of survival”…
The preach was entitled “The crit of of the hippo”…aka Hypocrisy. It was on judging others and then going out and doing the same things…well not the same things but like saying smoking is a sin, but eating only fast food is ok. They are both bad for you, they are both a waste of money, etc, and yet we tend to look at one as a sin and the other as ok. So basically the preach was on the removing of the plank in your eye before you point out the splinter in your brother’s eye.
This post is part of a weekly worship blog carnival, so do stop by the worship community for more setlists and sermon recaps from around the world…
Desert song (Brooke Fraser)
Eagle’s Wings (Reuben Morgan)
Dula Le Rona (Paul Mpete)
Hungry (Kathryn Scott)
Let me be found at your table (Brad Klynsmith)
Arnie and I led the morning worship. My first time actually leading. Strangely enough though I didn’t get my usual stage-fright. God is just super awesome like that…doesn’t let stupid things get in the way of his glory.
Anyway, Brett preached on sin this morning…using Hebrews 12: 1 – 2 and Romans 12: 1- 2.
– What is the thing that is the main temptation in your life?
– What is the sin it leads to?
– What is the death that comes out of that sin?
Basically he talked about how we let sin entangle us and keep us from running the race, and how the way to get out of that entanglement is to have a mind-shift; to repent and turn away from whatever is leading us into sin and to run to God.
Also, we need to remember that our sins don’t define us. Sin leads to condemnation, but the Spirit leads to conviction. Condemnation makes you think you can’t do anything because you are not good enough. Conviction leads to you saying “yes, i’m not good enough on my own, but i can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”.
Great is your faithfulness
Purify my heart
You won’t relent
Ron led the worship this evening. Brett did the same preach from the morning, but with a little twist.
Roslyn, one of our members, sang a song she had written (will need to get the title from her at some point) and then we went off into the hall and all sat there meeting with God and preparing ourselves to worship. Then once everyone was done we started with the worship. Then afterwards was the preach. But the best part of the evening for me was after the preach during ministry time when people came forward with their struggles and entanglements and stuff and they were prayed for.
For the fellow blog-carnival’ers: I had a tough time coming up with something to write on faithfulness. Someone mentioned in one of the other posts that these days “it’s become impossible to define the word without invoking its opposite“. In the end I decided to use someone else’s writing. This was written by my pastor Brett on marriage, and I think, although it wasn’t talking about faithfulness as such, it’s appropriate.
For the non-blog-carnival’ers: This post is part of the One Word at a time blog carnival where we are working our way though the fruit of the Spirit. Check out more posts on the theme of “Faithfulness” here.
Marriage has a unique place because it speaks of an absolute faithfulness, a covenant between radically different persons, male and female; and so it echoes the absolute covenant of God with his chosen, a covenant between radically different partners. – Rowan D. Williams
November 13, 2009
so TBV (the beautiful Val, my lovely wife) and i arrive at a pastor’s breakfast this morning and as we walk upto one of the pastors there he looks at her and says says something along the lines of, ‘So you have to put up with this hey?’ or some other kind of jesty vibe dunno-what-to-say-so-let-me-open-my-mouth-and-see-what-spews-forth witty reparte’… he was trying to be funny and it was fine… but a little while later they were introducing some new people to the meeting and the one dude’s wife was there for the first time and when she indicated she was with him an ‘oh shame’ or something emanated from someone’s mouth…
no big deal right? just a joke.
i have heard weddings where the pastor or best men make jokes like ‘marriage is like a phone call in the middle of the night – you get a ring and then you wake up’ and a hundred variations of that.
it’s just a joke. lighten up. it means nothing.
but actually i feel very strongly that it may mean quite a significant lot!
in fact for my wedding to TBV 4 months ago (this wed) we banned people from any negative wedding humour saying that for our special day we only want to hear stuff that builds us up and blesses and speaks hope and so on for the future.
if we look at the statistics (not a big statistics fan but these ones are pretty sound whichever way you look at them) we see that marriages as a whole in South Africa (and the western world at large) are not doing so great – in fact we are doing badly – as a nation we suck at marriage – and taking it further if you look at the stats of Christian marriages here they are no better – pretty much exactly the same as non-Christian marriage stats… as Christians we suck at marriage…
could it be that to some part where we curse marriage (in jest by little comments we make and insinuations and jokes breaking down marriage) verbally that curse takes up home in our lives (an invited guest)?
i am not saying that negative jokes/comments about marriage are the reason for our high divorce rate. but i am saying that i don’t think they are healthy and that they start to imprint the smallest suggestions or hints of ideas that we may later cling to as truth. and that can have disastrous results.
a marriage does not end in a moment – it is eroded over time – like water from a waterfall flowing onto rocks below that have become smoothed with age, gradually worn away again and again until they are no longer there.
and so i strongly urge you to speak blessing into your relationships and over your relationships and especially into/over other peoples relationships. speak life into them and not even a hint of pulling down. marriages and in fact all relationships are difficult enough (constantly under external attack) without us adding anything to make them even harder.
let’s FIGHT TO REVERSE THE NORM!!! we made bold declarations at our wedding that we want our relationship to succeed and that we hold ourselves accountable to all our friends and family who witnessed it and that we see them as being responsible for assisting us in living out a good and Godly and positive and role-modelling relationship.
relationships do work. marriage can succeed. But it’s largely about being intentional and persevering and fighting for and loving (with Christ’s self-sacrificing love) and doing that day after day after day – killing compromise and pride and dealing decisively with anger and selfishness and more.
my name is brett FISH anderson and i am VERY HAPPILY MARRIED to THE BEAUTIFUL VALERIE and i will fight for that as i choose her again every new day. how about you? let’s do this thing!
by Brett Fish Anderson